Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage by William Glasser M.D

Author:William Glasser, M.D.
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: HarperCollins

Ron and Beverly’s Story

My wife, Beverly, is a flaming hypochondriac. You name it, she’s got it. Not a day goes by that she isn’t complaining that one thing or another hurts her. Whenever we watch television, one ad after another is about asking your doctor for drugs to treat diseases I’ve never even heard of. But, sure enough, the next day Beverly knows she has it. She’s making me sick just listening to her complaints.

The worst thing of all is she uses these symptoms whenever she doesn’t want to do anything I want to do. Like sex, for instance—it’s always something. She outclasses the classical “Honey I can’t. I have a headache.”

Take our last vacation, for example. She ruined it for everyone. We went on a dream cruise with another couple, people we actually like. She spent the bulk of the time in our cabin seasick, even when we were anchored in port. I had to go to everything without her. I mean she apologized to everybody and we all felt sorry for her. She missed a really good cruise. I just wish we could find out what’s wrong with her. I don’t believe she’s actually sick, but if I even hint at that, she becomes furious.

I don’t know what to do with her. I try to be sympathetic, but that seems to make things worse. She goes to every doctor in town, but they never seem to be able to find anything wrong with her. One of them told her to see a therapist. She was so insulted she never went back to him.

You may wonder why I stay with her, but she is really a beautiful woman who with all her complaints pays a lot of attention to her appearance. The truth is I’m still powerfully attracted to her, and once in a while when she’s in the mood, we have great sex. I keep hoping she’ll start to focus more on how much I love her instead of always thinking she’s sick or about to get sick.

I don’t know what she wants out of life, but she never seems to be satisfied. She has a job that she’s good at, but it doesn’t seem to be enough to make her happy. I tell her that with her education she could work anywhere, but the people she works for now put up with her frequent sick days because somehow she always gets her work done and what she does is very competent. I have to say she’s pretty much of a perfectionist. Maybe that’s what’s wearing her out. She tries too hard. I wish she’d put that much effort into us.

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